While I was in my
bedroom preparing for my first day at school, my mother held my right arm and
took me to her bedroom. This was mother’s way of punishing us while we were
kids.
Scared, my heart started
to beat faster than ever, for I thought I had done something wrong, little did
I know that she was taking me for some “maturity” classes.
“Clare you are growing
old and there are certain things you need to know about your body,” she
started.
I nodded in agreement. “Soon
your breasts will grow bigger, and at some point, you will start to bleed
through your private parts. That bleeding is called menstruation and it happens
to every girl, every month, as soon as they reach puberty.”
I could not believe
what was coming out of this seemingly tough woman. I had always seen her counseling
girls from her school, and this time round it was me. So I paid attention till
the end.
“Your body will become curvy, and men will start admiring you. Please my dear little angel;
do not listen to any of those men. Do not laugh with them anyhow. Look at them
as dangerous wild animals,” she said. And indeed, I grew up knowing that all
men are wolves that could kill me if they got the chance.
So I asked her, “but
mom, why are you telling me all this?” And she said that I would appreciate as
soon as I got to school.
Sure she was right!
While my mother was
busy teaching me how to use sanitary pads and being careful with my life; some
other parents were teaching their vulnerable daughters about how best they can
satisfy men.
I reached school, and
on the first day in the dormitory, these little girls were discussing the dos
and don’ts in a marital bed.
Pretending like I was
not bothered about what these girls were talking about, I continued to organize
my luggage around my bed.
They went on and
talked, and the most intriguing was when one of them raised the issue of
pulling the labia. Apparently, she was in serious pain, because her mother had
done it to her the night before she came to school.
Inquisitively, I asked
what they meant, and they all looked at me like I a naïve baby who did not know
anything. That is when one of them told me to pull down my pants, so she can
see how I looked down there.
I refused and told that
my mother only taught me how to use sanitary pads, and did not do any bad
touches to my private parts.
Of course since I was
the only sheep among cattle, I was considered a villager.
To date, my memory of
that day still rings in my mind, like a fresh wound. Why on earth would a
parent decide to take her little infant to the bush to talk about sexual
satisfaction with a man?
I think these girls are
too young to know about certain things. Why would you late your infant grow up
knowing that she is a sex object? I still cannot find the answer to these
questions.
Parents should wait a
little longer, before they can start telling their little ones about these
things. A girl at the age of eleven, should be thinking about playing netball
with her friends, or going swimming, not satisfying a man sexually.
That is outright wrong.
That is the reason we continue to have unwanted pregnancies among juveniles.
By the way, because of
the attitude my mother instilled in me, I never dated until I was in my second
year at campus. To be continued…
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